Tops: Dominant partners who prefer penetrating their significant other, and being in control of the activity.We use them simply because terms like “top” and “bottom” are the easiest shorthand for describing gay sex positions.
To be clear: we don’t use the terms to define people in any way. We’ll do that by defining the terms commonly used to describe the roles of gay sex partners – and also by emphasizing that many people view these terms as possibly-offensive stereotypes which don’t properly define them or their sexual interest. (Opposite-gendered couples or other members of the LGBTQ community in the audience are welcome to keep reading as well.) Terminologyīefore getting down and dirty, let’s make sure that everyone’s on the same page. If you’re looking to change things up with new positions, let’s check out the best gay sex positions to try. Now that we’ve cleared that up, let’s get down to business. And yes, gay sex can often get messier, since it’s likely to involve the butt – and we all know what else is found in the butt.īut assuming that “gay men have their own way of doing things” is nothing more than heteronormative thinking. Yes, gay sex normally involves more lube, since the anus and rectum aren’t capable of manufacturing their own lubrication like the vagina does. (Not always, though plenty of straight couples have anal sex, too.) Yes, there are usually differences in the types of penetration that occur when gay and opposite-gender couples use the same basic positions. But missionary, doggy and cowboy/cowgirl are extremely common among all genders. (You’ve guessed correctly cowboy is homologous to cowgirl.) Those sexual positions, naturally, aren’t the only ones that guys with penises can enjoy with each other. Penis-owners have missionary sex, doggy-style sex, cowboy and reverse cowboy sex, too – and they’re all pretty damn good. After all, the anatomical parts don’t fit together exactly the same way. When and if they do, though, they probably assume that “gay sex positions” must, by definition, be very different than “straight” ones. Heterosexuals may not think very much about the mechanics of gay sex. Terminology | Old Faithfuls | A Little More Work, But Worth It | Other Possibilities